5 Ways to Get Your Wife to Have More Sex With You

Dear gentlemen, let's pause the complaints and take a moment to understand: evolving relationships call for adaptability. If you're seeking a more fulfilling intimate life with your spouse, it's crucial to recognize that change is inevitable and embrace the journey together.

As both a sexologist and a wife and mother of two, I'm often asked, "How can I encourage my wife to engage in more intimate moments?" With insights from my personal and professional experience, I'll provide straightforward advice to help you foster a deeper connection without stumbling. Here are my top recommendations:

1. Prioritize Closeness over Physicality

When the mood strikes, avoid impulsively reaching for sensitive areas. Clumsy attempts to arouse us, such as groping, tend to repel rather than attract. Instead, focus on gestures of affection, such as hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Delight us by assisting with chores or tasks. Recognize that intimacy extends beyond the physical realm, and genuine emotional connection is a significant factor.

2. Respectful Approach Trumps Fantasy

While explicit content may have its place, it's essential not to equate real-life intimacy with sensationalized portrayals. What we truly desire is a seductive and pleasurable experience, not a hurried performance. Your efforts must be earnest, not transactional. Remember, our imagination is a powerful tool; understanding our unique desires and engaging with them genuinely makes a world of difference.

3. Reciprocity is Key

Achieving a fulfilling intimate life requires mutual investment. To experience satisfying intimacy, be prepared to provide the same level of enthusiasm and satisfaction you seek. Open conversations about preferences and comfort zones can lead to enjoyable shared experiences. Keep in mind that many women find clitoral stimulation particularly pleasurable.

4. Allow Breathing Room

Paradoxically, granting your partner some personal time can rejuvenate your intimacy. Suggest childcare responsibilities to allow her leisure moments – a coffee date with a friend, a book by the beach, or a relaxing bath. This brief respite can invigorate her and set the stage for deeper connections later on. Embrace your role as a committed parent, as a strong paternal bond is appealing to many of us.

5. Effective Communication is Essential

I understand lengthy heart-to-heart dialogues might not be everyone's cup of tea. However, dedicating even 20 minutes to genuinely connect with your partner can foster appreciation. Engage in discussions about broader topics like current events, respecting her thoughts with articulate responses. Displaying attentiveness goes a long way, and the ability to recall and discuss her sentiments later will significantly impress her.

Need more guidance? I'll be addressing your inquiries throughout the week on Good in Bed.

Dr. Logan Levkoff, a Manhattan-based sexologist and sexuality educator, is a prominent voice on TV and in various publications. She's also the author of "Third Base Ain't What It Used to Be." Visit www.loganlevkoff.com for more details or follow her on Twitter: @LoganLevkoff.